So I decided that I was ready to write an essay about dating more than one person at the same time. When I first got divorced, after being married for so many years, I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to hurry up and be in an exclusive relationship. It made more sense to me to try to meet someone special, but to hold out the possibility of dating others. After all, after so many years of being married, why rush to commit—especially when I didn’t really know what I wanted—or even what kind of person I might be looking for.