... on this very topic. I guess it's going to be Real Science and everything.

Check out Karen's post about it here and then go participate in the survey.

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Mir from WCS
(BlogHer Mommy & Family contributing editor)

Personal: Woulda Coulda Shoulda

Having it all with less: Want Not

I'd have to go with a "Mostly, Yes," for me. I mean, I'm the one who married a man who she met on an online journaling/blogging site. I'm shy. You'd never know it from my blog where I speak my mind freely but I'm insanely shy. Wall flower type so. Getting to know people without having them see me fidget, tug on my ear or avoid eye contact lets me be myself. By the time I meet these blogger friends, I'm usually comfortable with them that I don't do much more than fidget.

I've met over twenty blogger/online friends. I continue to hope to meet more.

Though I don't want to marry any more of them. Just Josh. :)

Family Living; Hatfield Style
Jenna

Great question and topic, Tracey. So far, I've only met one person in real life who I "met" online. I'm in Maryland and she's in Boston, so when I was up there for a visit in March we got together. It was great, but I couldn't believe how NERVOUS I got about meeting up with her - would she still think I was cool? ; ) It went so well, and I know that if we'd met in person first, we would have been friends. I think there's also a tendency for some of us to share more in email than we may right off the bat in person, for whatever reason, so maybe that lends itself to more bonding.

Like real life, I've met some people online who I thought were great, but we fell out of touch and it didn't really last. And there are people I initially knew in real life who I only get to communicate with through email and the blog, because they're on another coast now, so maybe by meeting online first, we just flip the script? There is a natural challenge with physical distance, and my best friends are still my oldest - those whose faces and voices have been part of my daily in-person life, and who have picked me up off the floor when I've been in some challenging times. Still, I'm quite sure that good friends can offer support in a variety of ways and the computer is one of them.

Thanks again for floating the topic. I'm interested to hear what others have to say. Laurie

lauriewrites

I actually met my best friend online. We've e-mailed back and forth for 10 years now and only met briefly for 15 minutes in real life. I consider her just as much a friend as any others that I have in life.

Now having said that, I have met other 'friends' online that were completely different personalities in real life-they basically took on a different persona online.

I think it depends on the person and that one has to be careful.

I have met over 65 food bloggers in San francisco, new york london and Paris. Some of these have become extremely close friends, especially the special ones in SF with whom I have been able to bond with face to face and meet regularly. I am sure others would be just as good close friends if I had better access to them.

I am friendly also with dozens of food bloggers I have never had the pleasure to meet in person, but of those who I haven't met, there is just one very special one who has become very important in my life. She is the one whom I share things I wouldnt share with anyone else in the world. This came about when we accidentally discovered we shared a common tragedy, and now we know we are there for each other, to talk online, whenever we need. I doubt I will ever meet her or indeed even speak on the phone, but we definitely have a special, albeit kind ofsecret relationship. I am glad to have virtually have met her. for sure.

SAM

Being an active 'orkutter'... I wonder the same...

With the hundreds of online friends that we boast of, how many do we go to when we are sick or stressed? How many do we count as a confidante? With whom do we share our joys and sorrows? Isn’t that what friendship is all about?

This is a truly interesting topic to me - On one hand, I really feel for the people I "talk" to online - just today I was incredibly excited when one of my "friends" got her referral from China for her daughter. On the other hand - who knows if we'd be friends in real life? I'd like to think we would, but another part of my mind says, "Naaaa...they'd think you're weird/stupid/not well-educated/have bad taste.." Than again, I am going through my closet for one of them who's in a bit of a bad spot- and I've gotten some really nice notes and emails from them.

I think that in the end, you can be there for each other in some ways that "real" friends might not be- but real friends have their own definite advantage.

Maya at Chock Late

my little Link Textblog and was amazed at all the cool friends I have made because of the internet.

It is funny though...I still tend to separate them in my head into IRL friends and Online friends, despite the fact that I see the online people in real life too!

It is like I can't have my cyber friends meet the 'real' friends for fear of a clash of of paradoxical universes and the subsequent explosion.

I think for me anyway, it is because most of my 'mommy' friends have been acquired on the 'net, while my real life friends are a product of long years of shared experiences that came to a screeching halt when I decided to breed. Most of my friends have not committed this act.

But I still count myself lucky for the ability to dive into the cyber community and get the support and laughter and so on that I need to keep going in my daily real life!

When I was planning my wedding I started using theknot.com message boards. This was my first message board experience. Over time and after we were married a group of us who shared similar attitudes and lived in the same area formed our own message board. We talk daily, about silly things and serious things. The age of the women there ranges from mid twenties to mid forties. Together we've seen marriage, divorce, birth, and death. We started getting together for holidays, and then just for fun. These women offer advice and support and I consider them my friends. This network is important to me, as I work in a very male-dominated field and often don't have many coworkers that I relate to and many of my "real life" friends live far away.

Alotta Errata : Living life one mistake at a time

I consider some of my online friends to be more dependable than my "real life" friends. I don't think there is a huge difference really.

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My blog address is: www.delectual.blogsplot.net

I do think friends from the internet are real friends. Simply because you may never have met them in person doesn't mean you don't share a bond. I think the internet friendships are closer, because we are less inhibited to share our feelings, thoughts and emotions with others online. There's some security behind this screen that makes us feel safe.

I chatted online with my friend Amy for a year before we met in person. That first meeting was not awkward. We felt like we'd known each other for decades. And we've been friends for a year and a half now.

It's a great bond we share and I know we will be friends for years to come.

Dana From The Dana Files

Bloggin' Mommas...Changing the World One Blog At A Time!

When we grow up, work, get married, have kids, our world sort of shrinks. We lose touch with people, understandably.

I've been online for over 11 years, and have made close friends over the past 5 that I keep in near-constant contact with. If I email a friend about having a lousy day, that gets passed on, 20 minutes later I'm getting a telephone call from another friend to cheer me up. They're just as dependable as real life friends.

I was lucky enough to meet a few of my online forum/blogging buddies at annual training that I attend (autodesk university), where I'd previously hidden in a corner. I later married one of those friends. ;) In real life, he'd never have been confident enough to approach me.

Also, I can say that you grow real feelings and real attachments to people... I recently lost one of my best email buddies and the pain that I felt was as real as anything.
http://mistressofthedorkness.blogspot.com/2006/08/for-sid.html

You can let down your guard in electronic communications like you can't in real life. We show one another more of our true selves than we do anyone but our spouses.

Powerful connections can be formed, without a doubt.