By DENENE MILLNER, editor-in-chief of www.mybrownbaby.blogspot.com
My in-laws, Mr. and Mrs. Walter Chiles, cut a fineportrait this weekend, walking down the aisle of a candle-lit room at The WHotel here in Atlanta—she in a stunning champagne gown, with an armful of callalilies; he in a sharp tux, his fingers interlocked with his wife’s. BrianMcKnight’s ballad “Never Felt This Way” filled the air, serving a fittingtribute, as if Brian wrote the lyrics specifically for this posh, goldencelebration: There will never come a day/You’ll ever hear me say/That Iwant, and need to be without you/I want to give my all. And when they reached that magical place at thealtar, with their children and grandbabies and family and friends surroundingthem, we all lost it like we were at a Janet Jackson concert—alternatelywhooping and hollering and clapping and crying like we were a gang of groupiesgone mad.
We had good reason to act this way. Walter and HelenChiles, you see, were celebrating their 50th anniversary.
That’s five decades, dude. Since the two eloped inthe living room of his sister’s home on September 29, 1958, men walked on themoon, black folks waged the Civil Rights Movement, America’s fought in fourwars, and, by God, the Wu Tang Clan broke up. But through it all, Helen and Walterhave remained together, a testament to their generation, which, it seems, hasmade much more of a point to practice what it preached at the altar: Forbetter, for worse, for richer and for poorer, through sickness and in health,‘til death do us part.
For Helen and Walter, you see, being together—stayingtogether—is as important to them as breathing air. It’s not an option. It’sjust what you do.