This Quote o' the Month is from the comments thread to an excellent piece of analysis at Chandrasutra regarding the James Frey controversy.
It's also a relatively tangled nest of quotes for my series. Enjoy the complexity!
This comment, left by Andrew Riddles of The Super Nova Scotian, plays on Oprah’s statement that she felt duped by James Frey:
Perhaps Oprah should be less worried about what other people publish and take a look at what comes from her own magazine. I wonder if any women felt duped when they spent $7 on Oprah magazine to find this article, a special report on Men (and how to please them):
"Don't try to talk to him during football season.
If he tries to cook, get out of the kitchen until it's time to clean up.
Don't be argumentative.
Admire him for being tough.
Shut up.
Acquaint yourself with the career of Peyton Manning.
Meet every protest and argument he makes, no matter how ridiculously false, with the observation that he is absolutely correct… in boxing this is called rope-a-dope.
Rent a Steven Seagal movie.
Accept that the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is one of his favorite things.
- If you want him to fix the shower drip, whatever you do don't nag; instead, remove the shower head, bring it to him and say “uh-oh, stupid me, I tried to fix it myself but now the drip is worse!” Then offer to bring him his power drill.
- If you want to comfort your man, don't try to soothe him with a home-baked pie; for the lovagod, tell him how powerful he is."
This is from Oprah June, 2005. I would feel pretty duped.
— Comment left by Andrew Riddles to “James Frey and the pornography of confession” by Melanie McBride at Chandrasutra.
Note: Andrew credits I Blame the Patriarchy for his direct quote of the list of articles from Oprah magazine (which I have placed in quotes).
The post he refers to is “Chucking Oprah”, and was published in July 2005. Recommended reading.
Melinda Casino, Contributing Editor, Feminism & Gender
Sour Duck / Sour Duck's Link Blog
Comments
women's mags just make stuff up
I do enjoy the complexity, Melinda. Andrew makes a great point.
Anne Zelenka
BlogHer Contributing Editor, Technology & Web
Thanks Anne!
Thanks Anne. I guess I was kind of hoping it would lead readers to both Chandrasutra's blog and I Blame the Patriarchy's.
(I'm not familiar with Andrew Riddles' blog but his comment certainly motivates me to nose around it a bit...)
Melinda
Sour Duck
oprah and james
Oprah is a blessing and a curse. There is no denying her business savvy and she stands as one of the most successful businesswomen in this country.
At the same time, she definitely plays to what she thinks her audience is on both her show and in her magazine- it reads like a typical "women's magazine" (I hate that characterization myself) with very stereotypical articles with some more substantive bits of journalism tossed in here and there.
This may be a little OT but as for the James Frey controversy, I just have to pipe in on that as it relates to Oprah. As a nurse I have worked with substance abusers in many different settings over the years and for Oprah to not read the writing on the wall shows a naivety (sp?) that is stunning. She and her staff also seemed to play off the "women as enablers" stereotype as they pushed this book with a ferocity and passion that they denied other books chosen for her book club. Interestingly, she also really sold James Frey as a person to their largely female audience.
I find it interesting (and instructive) that women have bought this book in far, far greater numbers than men.
I wasn't at ALL surprised to hear that Frey had made up much of the more dramatic aspects of the book- many of my former colleagues in substance abuse treatment also weren't the slightest bit surprised and we all read the book as people familiar with substance abuse and noted some of the character traits that Frey exhibited, including an obvious narcissism, pension for dishonesty and possibly a wee bit of sociopathy. But that was just our take and it is certainly NOT a generalization to all folks struggling with substance use/abuse- instead just a comment on what seemed to jump off the page with respect to James Frey.
But I find myself interested in the fact that Frey gets hundreds of marriage proposals from women a month and most of his "fans" are women- there is something about Frey that was appealing to so many woman- what exactly? How much of that was due to Oprah? Did women find it appealing that he needed/needs saving? Why were women and not men lining up to buy Frey's book and reading it with tears in their eyes?
Oprah made an uncharacteristic business boo boo when she called into larry king and continued to support him[in my opinion]- after all, Oprah's Book Club and Oprah herself are a product and when she went to the mat for Frey, she put the credibility of her product in jeopardy. It was only after people expressed widespread shock/annoyance with Oprah that she changed her mind about Frey.