I am 7 months pregnant and I have two older kids 18 months and 6 years. When we were expecting our last child my oldest was 4 1/2 and he could understand everything we told him about the new baby and was very excited. The entire process was smooth and simple with very little tears. RJ was fine with speding a few nights at my mother-in-law's house. It was a vacation. He loved his little brother from the moment we told him he was coming and even more when he saw him and he came home. As with so many things when you compare my two boys it was a cake walk.

RJ is a very laid back while Aidan can't sit still. His mind is always going and he always wants to be doing.

How in the world, however, do you explain to an 18 month old whose world revolves around you that there will be another person to love and help grow in a few months? Aidan is the complete opposite of RJ. He won't simply play quietly with his toys and can't stand for me to be out of the room for more that a moment. Forget about taking a shower while he is awake. He tries to climb in with me! Up until recently he didn't even like spending alone time with his Dad. He is what some of my friends call a class 5 clinger.

Aidan is definatly getting better every day and as he gets older. The more he learns to do things on his own the more he can let go of Mommy's apron strings. But in three months there will be a big change in his life. Mommy is going to have to pay a lot of attention to another little one, not to mention the two or three days we will be apart during labor and delivery. He is way too young to explain everything to like we did with RJ. He has no concept of logic like his brother did. How will he handle all of this change?

As the belly grows bigger we have been pointing to it and talking about the baby that is growing inside. He has had his hand on my belly when the baby kicked but I am not so sure if he actually felt anything. How do I know that I am not teaching him that a belly is called a baby? We also have the book that we read to RJ when we were having Aidan and we read it to him to try to get the idea across that we will be having a new member of the family. I just am not sure if I am getting through.

I suppose that all I can do is keep trying and be patient. No matter how much we prepare there will have to be a period of adjustment come this Febuary. I just hope it isn't too tramatic. But let's face it, I am not the first to have to go through this and I certainally won't be the last.